Marriage can be very difficult, even for the most highly compatible and well-adjusted couple. Fixing a broken unhappy marriage can be even more challenging and painful. Fortunately, it does not have to be. With an understanding of proper communication, you can re-establish intimacy, eliminate the lack of communication and avoid blaming each other and have a rewarding experience of fixing your broken marriage.

Respect Is The First Step And The Easy Way

Instead of believing that respect is something that your partner has to earn, give it freely as a gift. If nothing else, respect each other as worthwhile human beings. Find things that you can respect about each other and celebrate these things. Both parties should be reminded of the vows that were made and respect those as well. There is no room for a lack of respect between you!

Forgiveness Is The Next Step For A Happy Life

There is nothing that anyone can do to fix yesterday. It is done. The best way to do this is to give yourself and your partner the gift of forgiveness. This does not meet you have to tolerate mistakes made over and over, but truly, things can not be “undone”.

Forgiveness is more about the one who is willing to forgive and move on than the one who has to deal with feelings of regret for causing the problem. Seeking retribution has no place in a marriage.

Let go of emotional baggage

Agree that you will no longer hold onto past emotional baggage and issues for a healthy marriage. Examine the behaviours that have created a weakening of trust, communication, physical intimacy, or fidelity in your marriage. Explain to your partner which behaviours and unresolved issues you need him to change in your broken relationship.

Explain how each of your proposed changes can help strengthen the weaker parts of your relationship and make your marriage work.

For example, you could say, “By calling me to inform me that you will come home late from work, I will be able to adjust when making dinner. This small gesture would help me feel less stressed.”

Stop assigning blame

Agree that you will no longer assign blame to each other and will instead find solutions that complement and strengthen your broken marriage. Provide choices that make allowances and provide room for error and make the relationship work.

Spending More Quality Time Together In One Of The Most Important Things

Take time out of your busy schedule and devote more time to your partner. Instead of going golfing with the guys after work go home to your wife and help her watch the kids. Your spouse should be the highest priority in your life, not going out with your party friends.

Create an intimacy pattern in your everyday life

Talk to your spouse about how you would like to relate more intimately and make a conscious effort. Expand your conversation beyond the realms of sexual intimacy to improve other aspects of the marriage such as trust. Think creatively to come up with activities that will enable you to feel truly feel connected to each other and eliminate marital problems.

Consider outside help

Consider consulting a marriage counselor, professional help, family therapist, church elder, or parent about problems you are having in your marriage. Seek advice from a licensed professional to help guide your decision-making and provide an objective and fresh perspective on your challenges. Incorporate whatever wisdom is most appropriate for you and apply it as effectively as you can for a good marriage.

How Communication Skills can help save a broken marriage

Often couples don’t take the time to make sure they understand the meaning behind what is being said.

An Example Of A Married Life Situation

• In the Hiler household, Grandma always called the family to dinner by saying I can smell the bacon burning. As a new bride, Tonya heard her husband on the phone with his sister. Well, I’ve got to go I can smell Tonya burning bacon.
• Tonya left the house in tears and her husband had no idea what the problem was. Tonya thought he was saying she didn’t know how to cook. He was telling his sister that he needed to get off the phone for breakfast.
• Do not make assumptions, ask questions.

Honesty Is The Easy Answer For These Kinds Of Things

Gentle honesty is a good skill to work on. You want to be honest with kindness and love, and you have to be truthful. Sometimes the best answer is Can we not talk about this right now? I need some time to think about how to phrase this properly. I love you and I don’t want any misunderstandings. Lies, even little white ones, put wedges in relationships.

Incorporate positive reinforcement

Agree to incorporate positive reinforcement and affirmations into the framework of all of your marital communication and healthy relationship. Begin your communication by acknowledging an emotion instead of assigning blame.

For example, you could say, “I felt abandoned when you did not come home for dinner on time last night. It made me feel bad because it reminded me of times when I felt neglected as a child.”

Sit Down With Your Spouse And Genuinely Apologise

The reality is you may not receive an apology in return but you can’t allow that to stop your progress or make you feel angry. Worry about your wrongdoings and make up for them with a heartfelt apology.

Sit Down And Talk With Your Spouse About The Tough Issues

A marriage is like a 2 persons team, to be successful as a team you have to establish effective communication. Always talk calmly and respect what your partner has to say, identify problem areas and work together to fix them. Consider marriage counseling, there is no shame in getting help to save your marriage.

Affection And The Elimination Of Negative Feelings

Although each partner may require different needs in the area of contact and affection, it should never be withheld. If your mate wants a hug, just do it. Affection is something that can be learned, so practice if it is hard.

Gift Of Self Is What Holds Romantic Relationships Together

There is something freeing about saying to your mate “I am yours.” Be willing to share who and what you are, all of you. If two people want to fix a broken marriage it can be done.

Remember Your Wedding Vows

Remember why you love your spouse, think about all the happy times you had together, and how badly you want that happiness back. Use that as your motivation to fix the biggest issues between you and your partner.

Get Creative For A Good Relationship

Assault your spouse with romance and restore the passion you’ve lost in your troubled marriage. Spend a couple of romantic evenings together by lighting candles and giving your partner a nice long sensual massage. Write your spouse’s heartfelt poems and surprise them with a gift.

• Consider going on a vacation getaway where you can relax and leave a lot of your stress behind you as you try to repair things with your partner.
• Complement your partner often is the most important step
• Tell them how much you love them, hug and kiss them regularly, and tell them how nice they look.
• Never take your loved one and what you have for granted
• You worked hard to repair your marriage and it takes dedication and commitment to keep it going strong. Be understanding and respectful to your spouse at all times.

Tips & Warnings For The Married Couple

Never think it’s too late, a marriage is a sacred bond, and with the proper guidance, you can make it through.

Not sure how to repair relationship problems? Are you drifting away from the one you love most and it’s eating away at you day after day? Marriage is a sacred bond and you shouldn’t give up no matter how defeated you may feel. Follow the guidance I offer in this article and work toward building a strong and lasting relationship and the perfect marriage that is worth fighting for.

A broken marriage can be fixed if both parties are willing and want to do the repair work. It comes down to some fairly simple principles. Simple to say, perhaps harder to accomplish. Live in the present and give each other gifts.

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